Sex during pregnancy

Women and sometimes their partners are often scared to have sex during pregnancy because they think it might harm the baby in one way or the other. Questions most pregnant women want to know about sex during their trimesters is; how safe is sex during pregnancy? Is there a time limit for sex during pregnancy? Are there specific positions for sex during pregnancy? How do I tell my partner I’m not in the mood? There are so many questions they want answers to, and while it is advisable to always consult your doctor and discuss certain things that you need clarification on, here are some things you should know about sex during pregnancy:

Misconception about sex during pregnancy

It is a popularly held belief that having sex during pregnancy can harm the fetus and probably cause a miscarriage. This is not true. Pregnant women can enjoy sex during all trimesters of their pregnancy. All they need to focus on is eating the right diet to keep them healthy and in the right mood for sex when it arises. The only time you may be advised by your doctor to stay away from sex is if you’ve had series of miscarriages in previous pregnancies. This is the only time that you will be required to abstain at least three months into the pregnancy. Also, if you are experiencing some pregnancy complication such as preterm labor, preeclampsia and so on, you may be advised to stay away from sex for the meantime. Other than these reasons, nothing is going to happen to your pregnancy

It is quite through that some women may feel less interested in sex when they are expecting, but this doesn’t apply to all women. Most times, they are just stressed because of the extra weight they have to carry about. Here is where the partner would need to be patient and helpful. Doing things for your partner such as foot massage, breakfast in bed, ice cream treat, will make her oiled and ready to please you in bed. Although, the sexual desire may decrease around the third trimester when the baby bump becomes too heavy and delivery is close by. Some sex positions might be difficult to perform at this time.

How to enjoy sex during pregnancy

First of all, you will have to be more communicative with your partner during this period. Keeping them in the dark and expecting that they would understand your every mood is wrong. If you don’t feel strong enough to go through sex that beautiful morning because of some mischievous pregnancy hormones of which morning sickness might probably be the end result, then you shouldn’t hesitate to discuss it with your partner.

When having sex, you will have to avoid some exciting things you did prior to conceiving like oral sex. This is because it is easy for a pregnant woman to be infected during this time due to the weakness of the immune system. Practices such as blowing air into the vagina should be avoided as it could end up blocking a blood vessel which could harm you and the fetus.

Sex positions such as spooning or side by side are more realistic during this period. If you are experiencing mild pain during sex due to vaginal dryness, a lubricant with higher water content, or, a well-lubricated condom can be used to make down there slippery and enjoyable again. Also, engage more in cuddling and kissing which will release some feel-good hormones-dopamine to help you and your partner through the stress of having a baby.

Bored of Your Bedroom? Try Out Other Spots

Doing the same thing over and over again is not only boring, but also frustrating. The same thing applies to sex. When you have sex in the same location, probably the bedroom, you will be tempted to see sex as just a routine that should be done and gotten over with, which is not what sex is meant to be.

Imagine having sex in a new exciting spot that could make your adrenaline rush and give you multiple orgasms. Let’s check such spots out:

The Car

Do you have a car parked in the garage? Then this should be your next spot to have an exciting sex experience. Head over to the back seat and do your doggy or missionary position. You can even try the face off while you are still there. The excitement of doing it in a different location accompanied by the thought of getting caught makes sex more intense as it is more of a hurried act than just drooling in your bedroom. Just make sure your car is packed in your garage and it’s night out if you want to avoid any embarrassment.

Balcony

Do you have an airy and spacious balcony with a great view? This is one of the best places to get your sex games on. Feel the cool evening breeze while you slid down on your partner’s penis when engaging in the love seat or face off position. You could also try the ballet dancer or quickie fix while you are there. You think someone might be watching from outside? That’s their problem, not yours. You are in your house after all.

Sunroom

Do you have a sunroom? Then what are you doing stuck in your bedroom? Your sunroom not only gives you a lovely view of nature while you are grinding, you could also have the feeling you are actually having fun outside your house. You can try the water fall or couch surfer position on your sofa.

Kitchen

This is a great place to try if you want to spice up your sex life. You have a kitchen table? It makes the experience a whole lot better. The iron chef, doggy, rest room attendant position is great for the kitchen spot as you can use the shelf or table for support. You can also do a bit of oral sex by lying on the table with a leg up while your partner stimulates your clitoris with his cold tongue( he can dip his tongue in iced water or place a piece of ice on his tongue before giving you head). It’s easy to get ice when you are around the kitchen.

Living Room

If you have kids, you might want to drop them off with grandma or a family friend. You don’t want anyone barging in on your special moment. Try out all the benefits of doing it in the living room. You can do the standing and seating wheelbarrow, lazy Susan, doggy and others. You can even make it more interesting by transporting your bed foam from the bedroom to the living room or probably get yourself sex foam which is more portable. Then you can try out various sex positions in a different spot.